I have a feeling that the culture difference probably has a LOT to do with it. In Russia, from what I gather, the women are pretty much 2nd class citizens according to their husbands. From what I've read, they're at their husband's beck and call, and do just about everything -- with NO help from the husband. He can sit there and trash the house, but she'd better clean it up with no griping about it!! That's her JOB. Now, I'm not saying that women haven't come a long way in Russia. There are women who have entered the work force and become executives -- they aren't just in the factories working 18 hrs shifts. But many still do work terrible jobs and get paid less that what we call minimum wages.

So I'm wondering if his trip back to Russia just reminded him of what a woman's job is "supposed" to be in the home, according to Russian standards -- and that's what HE wants. Well, sorry Charlie but he shouldn't have married an American woman!

Unless you want to severely lower your standards and become a work horse and be at his beck and call at all times including in the bedroom, I'm afraid you ARE headed for a divorce. Now I could be ALL WET as far as what's happening, but I'd bet my bottom dollar on it. I wish you the very best sweetie. I hope you can find a guy who is AMERICAN and who treats you with the respect you deserve, is helpful, loves and cares for you, and won't treat you like a work horse! LOL God bless. Hugs, Lee