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Old Nov 27, 2012, 07:12 PM
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Originally Posted by earthmamma View Post
I think we are to rely on that 'hour' too It's where we internalise it and then use that in the outside world. That 'hour' is our secure base. We or I check-in emotionally with all that hour gives me. Then other people fit into that rather than the other way round.
I agree that it is important rely on that "hour" in the sense that we should take what we have learned and apply it to our everyday lives. What I was saying in original post though was that I shouldn't be relying on T for my only emotional support especially if I am using that as a way to avoid working on my personal relationships. One of my (many) issues is that I have been keeping people at a distance for a long time and as a result I am not getting my needs met in those relationships. I think I am finally ready to start building closer relationships again.