My current T did push me to help me express my til then unfelt anger at something in my past, and the anger arose, but I wasn't angry at him. My previous T would do the same. However, those occurrences however distressing, weren't traumatizing as they released some emotions and moved me forward. I have had an occurrence where T pushed my buttons, I suspect with some goal in mind, but he didn't see that I was being traumatized in the process. I can say that I think/hope he had good intentions. Imo, one goal of therapy is to learn the felt difference between being scared and being scarred. Wolfie, I hope you can talk to your therapist about this, no matter what the outcome. Being pushed can be therapeutical although painful, but it can also erode built trust if one is not ready, leaving one scarred.