I was thinking about you the other day & wondering how things were going........

Personally I would say.....work on your marriage & your relationship with your wife & don't let any other female into your life, friendship or other even if it's not an affair......because even if it's not now, it soon will be because you haven't worked through your marriage relationship & bringing it back to where it needs to be for a real marriage to be successful.

Yes, it takes both....but I think that a marriage counselor would be necessary to get it back to an ok place. If you can't get it back to an ok place, it's going to only end up in divorce in the long run anyway...so you might as well see if you can't get the relationship recovered or accept that it won't & deal with where that takes you....but don't have anyone else in your life until that has been determined......for everyone's best interest....that way nothing but the facts about the marriage will be a part of the equation.