For me, compassion for myself (I actually think of it as empathy for myself because I was so disconnected from my own experience) only came when I realized my empathy for others who had been through similar experiences. Realizing I could feel anger and grief for the suffering other CSA survivors had gone through made it hard to continue denying that same anger and grief for my own situation. That was the absolute greatest gift I received from my group therapy experience--compassion/empathy for myself.