Well, first of all you need to stand up for YOURSELF. You can't be walked on unless you lay on the floor. MAKE her be more responsible by refusing to be the nanny for these kids unless you're going to be PAID for it, or unless you WANT to. She's being very rude by ASSUMING that you'll be available to watch the children -- she needs to check with you in advance before just dropping them off! And I don't mean an HOUR in advance. How about several DAYS in advance? And it IS okay to say NO. She will have to make other arrangements. And if she can't find someone else, I guess she'll have to stay HOME. These are HER KIDS. Not yours. You are not obligated to watch them 5 days a week FOR FREE. That's not fair --- and if your boyfriend doesn't like it, he can go fly a kite. You're not married. And even if you were, most of these "rules" would apply!

So stand up for yourself. And like I said, if BF doesn't like it, HE can watch the kids.

God bless and please take care. You've gone above & beyond what you should. Hugs, Lee