To me, the person who wrote the first is just believing something they have been told, and maybe worked out for them. I have to stick with the PhD (of course ) because we find many very sorrowful people who don't take care of themselves, don't love themselves, don't feel good about themselves but who might volunteer to help homeless, or give what they have to raise their grandchild, etc.

I think having compassion for oneself does help how the other giving makes one feel... in the enjoyment realm etc.