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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
That's a really nice feeling to have. But, you know, I don't think you weren't nervous because of finally realizing you trust your T (though I think you do); I think it's because you're realizing deep inside that you can trust yourself.  |
You know, I think you're right. I've actually trusted her for a long time (longer than I want to admit). I am the one I do not trust. As I gain more confidence and compassion for myself, I'm finding I trust myself and my instincts more. I'm going to explain this realization to T tomorrow. I think she will be thrilled.
Thank you so much for this!!
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I wonder if this might be the key. I imagine she has been very afraid of her cancer and the consequences of her chemotherapy. Afraid of being treated as an invalid or an idiot. Obviously you don't make her feel that way, and I can understand why she might be grateful for that!
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You may very well be right. This time last year, she told me I was one of a very few outside her family she showed her bald head to. I believe the only client, perhaps the only person ever in that building. She would close the door when she showed me. She told me many of her friends were "grossed out" or embarrassed by seeing her bald head...or even if her wig was just crooked!!
One thing my clients have taught me is that
all have inherent worth and odd looks, eccentricity, and "differentness" is okay. Apparently I accepted her when her own friends did not and maybe when she didn't accept herself.