Honey, if this young lady cannot stay with you depite the fact of what you are going through emotionally, then maybe she is not the one for you. Relationships take communication, compromise, and commitment. At the time of her wanting to marry you, you were not able to go through with it because of your financial concerns and that is no reason for her to leave you. If she loved you then she would be patient and wait with you and stand by you no matter what.

I understand how you feel completely. Me and my fiancee went through the same thing. I can honestly relate to you as I struggle with severe depression myself and I often unintentionally take it out on my girl. We even went through a situation where I thought she was cheating but it had only turned out that the guy she thought was flirting with her was only giving her a business card and he was a Press member at a convention she visited. In short, I accused her of cheating for nothing without knowing the facts.

It's very hard and if your love does not stand by you then coping through hard times will be a challenge. I understand that you truly and deeply love her but if she leaves you rather than being patient enough to support you through your tough times, she is not the one. Especially with the fact that she was speaking to another gentleman. But you will find the right girl who will be by your side and support you no matter what. That is what love really is.