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Originally Posted by Valentinedemorcerf
Also, for people whose first time is a do-it-in-the-dark-with-a-stranger sort of affair, though it's unethical and emotionally scarring especially for females, at least they don't have to look that person in the eyes for the every day for rest of their life if it's a horrible experience. And the marriage thing adds pressure because of the expectations. But that's something I'm willing to work through for the other rewards of waiting.
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Don't make rushed judgments about ethics or emotional scarring. You never know. My first vaginal sex was with a friend of mine, in a completely matter-of-factly fashion, without his realizing that I, oops, "lost my virginity" with him. He thought I had lost it with his close friend who was my first boyfriend but no, I had only had oral sex with that guy. So, it was completely uneventful, completely boring, non-dramatic, quick, non-earth-shattering sort of thing... and he was drunk to boot. Blah! But not unethical, not emotionally scarring, and not a horrible experience. Just plain boring. I did go on to have more meaningful sex life later on, thanks god. As to looking that person in the eyes for the rest of my life, I would absolutely love to look him up as we were good friends and I regret having disappeared from his life (as I did from the lives of many other friends), but... his name is Kevin Smith and with such a common name no Facebook, Twitter, or other technological miracle can help me locate him. Too bad.