Did you guys/will you guys be going to do counseling w/ the pastor who is marrying you before you get married. Most pastors here like to do that before they agree to marry a couple. If you do go that route you may ask the pastor if you can meet with his wife. You could always ask for advice from her. You c an from the pastor but for me personally that would be so weird. I would have to hide under the table and ask. But again that is just me.