i may be in the minority here, but i don't think she needs even one minute of a chance inside your home. any time you wake up and someone is standing at the foot of your bed, cuts up the blonde doll and does the dozens of other things she's doing, she sounds that it is only a matter of time til she harms one or both of you.

with her history of violence there is no way that you and your husband can lead her to the car and take her to treatment. that would be a very unsafe thing to try and do.

i go with the suggestion of calling the police and i would call them when she gets to your house. she can be arrested for trespassing and then when she starts acting out in the police car, she'll probably be taken to an ER and processed and sent to a mental health lockup for 72 hours. the police will be cooperative in protecting you. i worked in ER and saw this almost on a daily basis. and i know how my daughter fought when we took her to treatment. it ain't pretty. i had to take her down to subdue her and it doesn't sound like you could do that with your stepdaughter.

during the 72 hours, you and your husband will have time to make plans for her safety. and if need be, the police might even transport her to the treatment facility.i worked in a psych hospital and it wasn't unusual for a deputy sheriff or police officer to show up a patient that had to be subdued. she's definitely got a problem with anger and acting out and then there's probably several other DXs that she will have to deal with.

your safety is of the utmost importance. there's no way she isn't have some rational thoughts at times and knows exactly what she's doing. and she certainly could be planning something.

your family will be in my prayers tonight. best of luck to you, xoxoxo pat