Hankster, so he pays for everything - food, movie tickets, so I do not know how that goes with Friends with Benefits. But that does not bother me - I do not have money and he does have a bit of money and I am OK with his paying, no problem. The problem is that I need to tell him that I will be doing online dating and for some completely irrational reason I find it hard to come up with an opening sentence. A long explanation is on the Bipolar forum, called "A delicate request", if you can please scan it and problem-solve with me.