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Originally Posted by geezusz
Did you do it? If so, how?
I have been in T for a few years. I have resolved everything I came in for. I dont feel like i need T anymore. I spend about 600 per month on T which is a luxury for me. I would like to save that money.
My only problem is that while I don't need T, I do feel attached to her quite a bit, and I am afraid of grieving afterwards. Because of this, it has been easy for her to talk me out of it. I guess I am afraid of some old ways of negative thinking coming back if I don't see her regularly. But I have no sound basis for that.
So any solid methods and encouragement for terminating would be appreciated!
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The how is easy; the why is tough.
I'm wondering why your T "talks you out of it." Is it for valid, therapeutic reasons? Apparently you think not, as you say you've solved your issues. So the decision should be easy, as for a T to prolong therapy for non-therapeutic reasons would reveal incompetence, at the very least.
Yet you are still feeling a strong attachment--strong enough that you fear termination grieving. Those feelings come from need, and need usually connects to unfinished psychological business.
Now, the decision is absolutely yours to make. And you do have to feel a readiness to pursue deeper levels of therapy. But it does sound to me like there's a possibility that whatever distress brought you to therapy may have eased, yet some underlying issues may remain that keep you connected.
It's curious that you say you have no "sound basis" for your fears and request "solid" ways and "encouragement" to leave therapy.
You just don't sound convinced that you're ready to leave to me. Perhaps that's also what your T is reacting to?
ETA: Wait a minute: your OP is a bit misleading. You failed to mention your recent romantic transference here. Please don't manipulate and play games.