I kept in contact through msn with my ex who abused me.

For me it was a power thing, again putting myself in a situation that makes me uncomfortable. At least it was over a screen and not in public so I did it the safe way.

Know what his answer was when I confronted him about it?

"I don't remember that ever happening"

"You were the only one I ever did it to"

etc.

After awhile of having him send me uncomfortable triggering messages I deleted his email, deleted him from msn and icq and I felt good about it. Before that I'd delete him then just get in contact with him again.

Again it was now i know that it was because I was trying to gain the control back, something that I never had.

Maybe that in a sense is something that you are doing with your mother? Does that make any sense?

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>