Just to give you a bit of feedback on this to consider. All of us have things that we are uncomfortable with, and that is just the way things go when you have issues that take you to therapy. I do think that you go beyond that here, though, by making your uncomfortableness about the other person. Your interpretation that this sitting behavior says something at all, much less "ignorance", about the other person, is unlikely to not only be accurate, but also to be alienating to the other person. Your issue with discomfort is *not* about the other person, it's about what the behavior means to you, and understanding what that's about is likely to move you forward rather than backwards. Labeling women ignorant because they don't sit the way you prefer is going backwards, not forwards.

Perhaps you are uncomfortable with it because you feel ignored by a woman in that sitting position, or because you feel that she is signaling a lack of sexual availability to you. Whatever it is, this is about you, not about the women who may choose to sit across from you.