Talk to your soon to be H. Is he as freaked as you are. I do know that you should not allow him to go into the wedding night thinking sex, sex, sex. (been there) Hope fully you guys can discuss it before you get married and have a plan in action for your wedding night. You can always change your plan if the need arises. Who knew (certinly not me) that it was ok to wait. JUST EXPLORING is a great idea. It might even prove to be fun to.