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Originally Posted by Torani
Well I appreciate your advice. He is watching it daily. He has more pictures of other women on his phone than of his own family.
To fill you in, me not fighting with him about porn WAS my comprimise with him, until I found out he was watching it before having sex with me. No, I am not impressed in any way that he would wake ME up to have sex with ME, after he has gotten turned on but the image of another woman.. He may as well cheat, cause I dont want to be his outlet. He can cheat then, I really dont care. Some girls may take that as a compliment but I do not. I think its lowly and insulting.
I do not withhold sex, I just no longer desire to sleep with him. what about his porn usage is sexy to me in anyway? It doesnt turn me on that he does it. Why should I have to accept it? to make him happy? If he cared about my happiness that might be an option but its not more important than his porn.
I dont doubt that he loves me. but why not spend that energy on me then?
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I can understand it bothering you especially when he wants to have sex with you after looking at porn. The thing is he's using porn to get aroused and not YOU then he uses you for the satisfaction afterward. of course you feel used. I'm not going to say generally that porn itself is the bad part here, it's the way that he's doing it that bothers me. he should be able to get aroused with you and have sex with you not the way it's occurring. I would say that some would say it's better that he does that than get satisfaction with the porn itself but the problem with that is that the sex with you should be all about you not the images or videos he saw prior to coming to you.
I don't know if he would be open to this but I think that you should ask him to just have sex with you and do it without the porn. I don't think that's unfair, if you allow him to view it but not in those cases I think it should be a good compromise.