I never said you specifically insisted LadyZero, and yes since she already stated it and pretty much doesn't seem ok with it personally, it can seem like people try to overlook that part. I wasn't pointing you out, as I said I see this often here, and I really don't understand why. Like you said you didn't see all her posts, but sometimes people do and make light of it or try to change the persons mind. I hope that makes sense... trust me it was not an attack. Insisting was probably not the right word. I guess what I mean is......

Just wonder why the suggestions keep coming back to her alone, and not both people involved. I think the self esteem can be worked on, but it wouldn't really do him any harm to perhaps be a little more considerate of her feelings in this as well, wouldn't hurt him to compromise and give her what she needs too.

Thank you for answering tho, I have always wondered on this issue. You were not the only person who shared that opinion. But I thought I might as well put it out there and ask. Your post did confuse me a bit about your bf.