The difference is that I am owning my uncomfortableness, know that it's based on my own history, and I'm not putting an interpretation on the situation that is about the other person. I don't say "men who sit in this open position are indicating that they are sexual aggressors who are about to attack me". I'm not labeling the other people as the issue, I'm quite clear that it is that I am uncomfortable and I just deal when men sit like this around me. I don't ask them to change their behavior and I don't point out that they make me uncomfortable. This is a reaction that is centered and dealt with solely within myself.

You insult women who sit the way you find uncomfortable, as "ignorant", and you ask them to change. You label the "deviant" women as the problem and fail to acknowledge that your interpretation of their sitting and interest or lack thereof may be completely incorrect.