I do that too! I always feel like I'm not walking naturally when I walk by people, like if I have to use the bathroom in a restaurant. I try to walk with confidence, but I feel like everyone is looking at me and noticing that I am uncomfortable walking by them. I hate that! I always wish I could walk like Meg Ryan does in her movies. Isn't that silly? But she has a great walk in "You've Got Mail" and in "City of Angels"... You are not alone with this one... I also have a weird thing about people looking at me when I'm in my truck at a stop light. I can't bring myself to look around because I'm afraid someone is going to be looking right at me and I won't know what to do. I told a therapist about that once and she suggested that I force myself to look at the person next to me and smile. But I'm afraid to because what if it's a guy and they think I'm coming on to them and follow me? ACK! I am 38 and I've been dealing with the "all eyes on me" thing since high school. The only thing I can say is that when I am having a rare confident day, I can step outside of that and realize that people are soooooooooo self-absorbed these days (maybe they've always been...) that I'm pretty sure nobody is looking at us or laughing at us and if they are laughing, it is because THEY are insecure about themselves, so they are no better than us. Keep that in mind. Nobody is any better than anyone else. We all have to realize our personal power and we can get over some of this stuff... it's just hard sometimes to find your personal power when disorders and phobias and chemical imbalances are in the foreground of our lives...
hope that helped a wee bit... it helps me to know I'm not alone, that's for sure. thanks!
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