Boundaries,ahhhh, once you start making them it never stops...... Jan, you are in the throws of learning to stand your ground in so many parts of your life right now. "Victim NO more!". It's so touchy when change hits family--especially Moms....... we started dealing with stuff with her, inside her: pretty intimate, eh?

Extra hard to draw "our lines not to be crossed" and hold them. So many reasons to give in and "make life easier", but, then it's only that moment that is greased through with a pass, then its back to square 1 again, trying to reestablish and "really really mean it this time, Mom...".

Breaking old patterns in ourselves forces the breaking of old patterns with those around us. Many times they don't want to change 'cause the old way worked to their advantage....... ya know? It was their way, now it's time for your way and maybe in teh future you can meet in the middle with some kind of balance, mutual respect.

Till then, I'd say it's time for tuff luv. Mom's gotta learn to chill. ))))))) ) )january ((((((((