1tash1 - Yes, you are wounded, but you have to remember that your wife is wounded too by all the drinking you did. You wounded HER too. Yes, she has wounded you by her words and actions -- you BOTH have wounded each other. But SHE isn't going outside the marriage, is she? No. And you would get very angry if she did, wouldn't you?? YES. So how do you think she would feel if she found out that you were talking to this woman?? She would be hurt AGAIN.

You can't do this and expect your marriage to heal. It won't. You're just wounding her and the marriage once again. One of these days you're going to put the final wound in the marriage and it will be ALL OVER. There will BE no more marriage.

So stay AWAY from this woman. Don't talk to her anymore if you plan on staying with your wife. You can't do it and expect to save your marriage. It's not fair to your wife OR to your kids. God bless you my friend, and take care. I do understand. Hugs, Lee