Hi wounded... I feel for you and hope the best for you and your husband. You say he has hurt you over and over again. I do think you need time to heal, with out healing resentment builds and builds. Take the time to make yourself healthy. Your children need a stable parent and that sounds like you. You can still love, support your husband at a safe distance.

If your sexual prefernces do not align with his, meaning, your not ok with the cyber affairs, interest in couples or etc... then its going to be difficult to stick around in the middle of all that and try to heal and repair. even if he stopped doing all that today, its still hard to heal how its hurt you.

I also feel for your husband. He was hurt and it seems to be affecting his life as an adult.

He needs to get help from a professional to work through it. Sounds like that might be to hard for him to address. You can not make him want to make changes only he can want that for himself and family.

I can imagine this is hard on you... You are not alone wounded.... Keep your head up, do what you need to heal your hurts.... Your worth the effort and your kids need you healthy to...

I would praise your husbands efforts to make changes, but all that can be done at a distance if you need some time to heal. That is NOT turning your back on him...