I do the same, If I keep him at arms length then my week seems to go much better, out of sight out of mind. ( although I feel this is the least productive way to handle things in the long run) If I let him in and get intimate, it reeks havoc on my weak emotionally and I tend to reach out via email in between appointments. ( I think this is real therapy, when I'm emotionally vested , as opposed to going through the motion with my "arms length" approach)