I found the self centered thing hard to swallow as well, RS brings up a good point too. The quote and the self appointing guilt , I do this.

Earthmamma / RS - the book is written for women, I agree men can feel this way.

RS-its an interesting question you pose. I get my needs met by meeting others needs, so I guess that would be self centered too, however being self centered doesn't have to be a bad thing right? I mean it has an ugly connotation to it, but it can be a good thing too as I see therapy as very self centered.