Interesting topic. I grew up with parents who barely got through high school & their intelligence level was definitely NOT the greatest. In school, I was always told that education is your way to success.......so even though I had to work harder at getting the good grades than some, I put in the effort & got the good grades.........so obviously, when I was in college & the guys I met, it was important if I actually chose to get married, I wanted to marry someone intelligent....so that I wouldn't marry someone like my parents who I worked so hard myself be at a higher intelligence level than they were. I worked hard at my classes & my major because I wanted to earn my way out of where I was born, not marry out of it.

Ended up meeting a guy in my computer science major......claimed how intelligent he was & in high school how well he did.....in college, he did poorly because of attitude, saying that he did bad in the classes that he knew he was smarter than the professor (very BAD ATTITUDE!!!!). I realized just how bad that attitude was right before the wedding we ended up planning & stupidly went ahead with the marriage anyway....my mother who knew nothing about relationships nor intelligence said he would become responsible when life forced him to be......WRONG!!!!.

Unfortunately, I learned over my years of living that intelligence & wisdom are 2 different things. One can have a very high IQ & have no wisdom at all & absolutely NO common sense. I learned over the years that one is better off having common sense & wisdom than intelligence any day. I balied our marriage out of mess after mess until I finally had enough......gave it 33 years because most of the time I hid away from it in my own career.....but after I lost my career & realized how trapped I ended up with this guy who then I had to depend on......I realized that my life was really in a hopeless place at that time......& tried to end my life way too many times to even keep track of because I saw that as my only way out.

Thanks to God, I wasn't successful & now I have a wonderful life on my own where as soon as I successfully get the divorce completed once the last financial mess he made gets finalized, I honestly have no desire to have my life tied to anyone else EVER AGAIN. I don't want to deal with someone elses lack of wisdom that will end up messing up my life.......if my wisdom is bad....I will deal with my own consequenses...I don't want to have to deal with the consequenses that someone else dumps on me.....someone who may have a high IQ & had intelligence in the upper numbers but who has absolutely NO WISDOM or common sense in how to handle the every day things that come up that need to be dealt with.

I have learned to judge people who I allow to touch my life in ways that will effect me by their wisdom & common sense.....not by their intelligence.