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Originally Posted by seventyeight
i'm finally understanding that her distain and unwillingness with that is not necessarily about my insurance company, but insurance companies in general and her past experience with them. this is also consistent with the things she has said in session about insurance companies, and for some reason i didn't put it all together before.
i told her i wasn't willing to accept it, and gave her four reasons why:
- i feel like it would change the boundaries
- i would feel less important of a client if i was paying less (like if she had the choice between giving me or someone else a certain appointment, the full-paying client would always take priority)
- i wouldn't feel comfortable calling her outside of session if i needed to talk, like those benefits are reserved for full-paying clients
- i'd feel guilty if i went out to eat or shopping, like any extra money i had should be going towards therapy
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That was what I was trying to explain concerning how many T's and pdocs really have an utter disdain for dealing with insurance companies because they don't like the insurance companies having say in their treatment of their clients.
I think you need to explore your reasoning for rejecting the sliding scale. These are your beliefs, but they really aren't based on fact, just on your own personal beliefs and feelings.
I paid my 1st T on a sliding scale (very sliding if you know what I mean). Our boundaries did not change one iota. I was never treated any differently by my T. As far as "feeling" like you can't call or can't spend money goes, that is all on you and those are mistaken beliefs that you can work on and work through if you are willing to accept the help and generosity of your T who is quite willing to work with you this way and in fact prefers to work with you this way rather than to have a 3rd party insurance company dictate any conditions on your treatment.
Think about that. Your T wants to ensure the BEST care for you, and she feels this will be the best situation for both of you. Can you consider trusting her judgement and expertise on this? Or are you going to stay stuck in your mistaken beliefs about this situation and refuse her help? That's what this really comes down to.