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Originally Posted by MissCharlotte
Hi Chopin,
This sounds like a lovely session to me. What makes you think it was weird?
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Hi MissCharlotte! Just because she was a bit "hyper" and did things out of character during the session. Then it was as if she shut down at the end, which she never does.
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Originally Posted by farmergirl
Doesn't really seem terribly weird to me. Is it possible you are just reading way too much between the lines?
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I don't believe I am, Chris. The session itself was fine, despite being a bit hyper; T was very open, I was very open. However, it seemed as if when the session was over, she "turned off" in a way she never has before, and I typically have her last session of the day.
I'm pretty mature and try to give people the benefit of the doubt (very different place than I was in a year ago when I assumed the worst of everyone) and I know she has her own life and own problems, but she normally strives to be very authentic. It was very uncharacteristic.
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Originally Posted by geez
What is an a-frame hug? and did you try to pull away or did she? My T has a no hugging rule however in light of the crisis I've been in I felt it ok to ask for that support and I gave her and received a hug. It feels good to get hugged by T but what means more is what we talk about during the appointment.
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A-frame hug minimizes touch between the hugging individuals. Only the shoulders touch. My T
never hugs like that and she was the one pulling away.
Hugging has been a huge deal in my therapy, especially in the last couple of months. I've been dealing with shame related to desiring maternal touch. When I asked her for a long hug a couple of weeks ago, she complied and told me over and over again, "it's okay." I even tried to pull away a couple of times and she'd pull me back to her and hug me even harder. It was very healing.
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Originally Posted by geez
I think the skirt mishap was probably her forgetting she was wearing a skirt and feeling comfortable being with you and not thinking about her own body language and attire.
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I agree. I just thought it was funny, even though those thoughts did run through my mind!
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Originally Posted by struggling2
i think it sounds lovely as well! she sounds really comfortable with you...in a good way. like it is a relationship that is still very therapeutic for you but at times can be lighthearted in a healthy way. i dont think it sounds weird at all  |
I shouldn't have described my session as weird in and of itself. A few weird things happened, but it's really the end that disturbed me.