The part I have a hard time with, Chopin, is how it happened that she tried to pull away three times. How does that work? She pulled back and you refused to let go? That would bug the heck out of me. And then to have it happen two more times before you let go is a real lack of caring or respect for her desire to end the hug. Maybe that lack of respect for her boundary was why "she 'turned off' in a way she never has before."

I am not trying to upset you or judge you. Just offering another way of looking at it, maybe.