Ok well I don't know, I just read your other thread and maybe getting married soon isn't a good idea.

There seems to be communication problems happening quite a bit between the two of you, issues not getting dealt with, and sort of pushed under the rug. I understand you want to work on them and he seems to want to ignore them. So now this thing happening here a long with it..

My bf has female friends, and I have some male friends, but they are just that.. they are friends, and we all know each other, have hung out together. Did he tell you he would not text her anymore and then did text her after? I know you said he did again the next day but it was not clear if that was after he promised not to or before.

You guys are pretty young and maybe too young or not ready to be getting married. Counseling is one option, if he would agree to that, and maybe not a bad idea at all.

The thing about people who cheat is that they will do it one way or the other and you can't really stop them. Even if you could stop them from doing it by controlling the situations, would you want to be with that person knowing they only didn't cheat because you made them not able to, and otherwise they would have? I wouldn't.

I don't know if he would or would not, or if this girl is just a friend, there really isn't enough to go on there.