It's definitely a process. My T has got to be the most patient woman on the planet to wait while I figure things out for myself when it would be so much easier for HER to just say Yo - Artemis - THIS! But bless her heart, she never does that. Even when I ask her to. I always end up thanking her later after I've figured out whatever it is I'm working on. I thank her, because it means so much more when it comes from inside me, than just being told something. She tells me all the time when I thank her - "You've done all the work!" I HAVE worked very hard, I don't deny that. It's been worth every bit of work too to be where I am now. Ferelkittymom is right, it's not a fix-it shop, it's a process, and yes it's a lot of work but when you're ready to do it, and you roll up your sleeves and dive into it, it can be pretty incredible. I'm living proof.