I like the way your T handled it. I don't think it's her responsibility to stop you from being dependent in a relationship. But if you go to her and say, "I think I'm doing it again, let's work more on this in therapy," then I would expect her to follow your lead and put that issue at the top of the list to work on.

On the one hand you wish your T analyzed your life and relationships. But on the other hand you didn't like it when she gave you relationship advice? It may be hard for your T to tell what you want.

All these little negotiations with your T, making your wants/needs known, clearing up misunderstandings, getting over the disappointment of their not being exactly the way you want them to be, etc.--the heart of therapy!