I found this definition:
http://www.ehow.com/about_5050359_de...available.html
Quote:
Definition of Emotionally Unavailable
The term "emotionally unavailable" usually refers to those who create barriers between themselves and others in an effort to avoid emotional intimacy. Relationships with emotionally unavailable people are often depressing and distressing, as their partners end up feeling neglected, unloved and unwanted. Emotionally unavailable people will actually seek out relationships with others, but the problems begin when they are unable to commit fully to their relationships. Because emotionally unavailable people often behave as if they want to be in a relationship, it’s important to be able to recognize the signs that a person is emotionally unavailable.
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I think of someone who is emotionally unavailable (can be a male or female) as fearing emotional intimacy and withholding themselves from their partner. I think the withholding can be very deliberate (they are scared to be intimate because they will get hurt) or due to ignorance. I believe some people just don't know how to be emotionally intimate--perhaps their parents were cold and withholding themselves and so they had no healthy emotional role models. Whether the withholding is deliberate or not, the partner generally ends up getting hurt.