Hi all.

I really need some advice. How do you mend a closet dysfunctional family?
As a bit of background, I'm from a chinese immigrant family who has settled into the UK. My parents ran a chinese takeaway for most of their lives raising my brother and me up.

All my life (I'm now 24) I never questioned anything surrounding my family. The family was like a deity that I didn't dare touch. I had my falling outs and everything from time to time, but I accepted things as normal - why wouldn't they be?

But now, after a transition into my dream career path and an awakening of sorts, I find myself the only one within my family who can honestly do ANYTHING to save it from spiralling into oblivion.

My dad suffers from gambling addiction, and my mother is a "martyr" in inverted commas. My brother has pretty much distanced himself from us, although he opens up to me a lot more than my parents (we're living under the same roof at the moment).

A week ago, my mother threatened for the nth time to divorce my father. She called me for the nth time after the episode. I gave her my advice, which, albeit cold and clinical, was my honest attempt at helping.

My advice? Just break up.

But talking has not helped. My mother puts up her shields and tries to belittle me, while my father scurries off into his hole. It got to the point when I, who has never turned for help outside of the family, dialled up a family advice helpline and gushed down the phone.

So yeah, my parents are pretty much destroying themselves, and it's taking a toll on me.

Sure I could walk away and deny responsibility. But deep down, a part of me still loves and cares about my parents, and I want them to at least be happy within themselves.

It eats away at me. On one hand, I'm on the path to happiness with my own life, and on the other, behind me, there is chaos.

I think a psychiatrist or psychologists who goes deeper than putting labels on people and things is what my family desperately needs.

What should I do?