MKAC, the one thing I did was keep the family home....and it's true that it helped me feel less safe. My ex "broke" into the house quite a few times, and it got to a point where my T wondered if he dug a hole in the ground to get into my house, because I took so many measures to keep him out.

Another thing...I'm not sure if it's just how brainwashed I was, but I never felt like I was in grave danger. That's what scared my T more than anything - so it was important that I took measures to protect myself even if I thought that the idea of anything horrible happening was far fetched.

Better to be safe than dead.