Also sometimes he might not mind being reminded and sometimes he might resent it... depending where he is at with it. That is how I was.

Venus brought up a good point about the asking when in an argument, when my bf and I would get in a disagreement, even if I had a legitimate point, he would always say " oh your not doing good right now", or " having you been taking your medication". And I can understand why this happens from the others persons perspective and an easy thing to get into, but nothing to make you feel less validated than that I think.

And so not saying that you do that at all, but I think from reading here lots.. it's common from family and friends. And they probably don't have bad intentions, hard to see what is what all the time.