Just to add a different perspective .... I've got tons of baggage and issues, but doing too much for other people and putting their needs ahead of mine is NOT one of them. I do like to do things for other people but not to the point that I don't take care of myself. So I guess that makes me really and truly selfish??? It seems to me that people who do for others are NOT being selfish at all. I am the selfish one because I don't do.