your husband needs intense prayers and positive vibes. i cannot understand how he would think all of her bizarre and seriously dangerous behavior is from ADHD..this is much deeper than that. her trying to slam him in the head and then him to take her down is bizarre enough. it's a wonder she didn't kill him. did that not sink in on him?

therapy is needed for the two of you. you to be truthful about what is happening to the family and a T to convince your hubby that this is indeed a very serious and dangerous situation.

my opinion is this child needs lockup for about two years. and then evaluated by a team of specialists. i know that sounds really intense, but her behavior is beyond intense. it is dangerous to so many people. she could decide at any moment to attack her mom. or her brother or a neighbor. getting away with this for so very long has empowered her bizarre and violent nature. this is where dad has really enabled all of this.

let her mom know that she cannot come to your home and her relay it to her daughter. even a letter from you to mom would be wise. then you have it on paper. then when she steps foot onto your driveway or lawn, call the law. immediately. and don't let her into the house. have everything battened down. good luck. keep us updated. xoxo pat