I've learned that a doctors diagnosis isn't the end all be all. I was dx with bipolar in 2008 - never fit - in Jan 2012 while in the hospital for suicide idealization/depression they came up with borderline but my doc kept the bipolar and he called it "wishy-washy bipolar".

The suggestion that I may suffer from borderline (took a personality test which led them the dx) was devastating - it was awful - I felt so embarrassed and shameful but I read up on BPD and it fit. I don't cut and there are some other things that really don't apply but many other things fit like a glove. I felt comfort (after the initial shock) - finally an explanation for the chaos - I'm not the only one.

When the doctors diagnose - in my opinion - it's a crapshoot - we are all different and the doctors just use the big pond of all the fish and go with that -meds - I've never until recently had meds that worked for me. Doctors don't know everything - if you don't think this fits - don't feel you have to own it. You are your own person and you know yourself the best. Good luck and take care.