Have you filed for divorce yet? I think it's time. My "ex" and I used one of the "cheaper" lawyers in a mall. LOL I don't know if they even have them anymore. But can you believe that my ex and I used the SAME LAWYER? !! We were in agreement about everything, since we worked it out ahead of time. We wrote everything down that we had agree upon, went to the lawyer and that was that! And it was MUCH cheaper than going to a "regular" lawyer in their expensive offices. lol I think we paid something like $250.00 for the whole thing! But we didn't have minor children either. So that makes a difference.

If I were you , I'd at least file and get the divorce in motion. That IS what you want to do, correct? Your husband isn't likely to change from the sounds of it. Have you asked him about counseling? If so, did he refuse? It would certainly help if he would go. But if you're fed up, there's no point.

Can you move in with family or friends until you can find a place of your own? You would be much happier if you weren't in the same home. It's just putting unneeded stress on everyone. I know the kids will be unhappy, but they're not happy now, I'm sure. They know something is up. Kids are very attentive, and they know when things aren't right. But they're also very resilient -- they'll bounce back after the divorce. They may need counseling, but they may not too, as long as they can see their Dad weekly, depending on the visitation schedule.

I wish you the very best. I hope you get things in motion soon. Please take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee