Alf, it's been my experience that it's not a good idea to get emotionally involved with the opposite sex when our emotions are controling us rather than us controling them. It's not an easy taks in the best of times! We run a risk of confusing love with need or any other emotions that wouldn't be healthy to base a relationship on.

There's nothing that says that you can't start getting to know this woman better in a non-threatening environment, though... and very slowly while you work on your own problems.

Hang tight and good luck!