I don't think if someone were actually really truely in love someone they would come to divorce over this. The op said she loves him, but not in love. I think that's a big deal. I don't think it's just a matter of flossing teeth.

I mentioned child support, not the government. You know ..the kind the other parent pays to help with the costs of raising their child.

I had parents who satyed together for the kids, who were not in love.. Was it really the best for my sisters and I? Well we would and have all said no. Every situatuation is different, and staying for the kids is not always a good idea if the parents are going to be together yet miserable.