elliemay, you've gotten some pretty good advice here, I think. I'll take a different approach. Is it correct that you quit therapy with your former T because you moved away? Maybe doing phone therapy (is that an option?) with him would be better than trying to get him to be like your current T. I think maybe you're going to be disappointed with your current T no matter what, but if you have no other options, I don't see anything wrong with asking your current T to contact your former one.

I know phone therapy isn't for everyone, and I never did it, but one of my Ts suggested it as a real solution, and said it would be the same as seeing her. I disagreed with that, but she was a good T, so I believe it could have worked.