Thanks Perna for your insight! Yes!! I think extreme disappointment and anger is OFTEN related to past issues and abuse. It is for me, and it was for some who hurt me. I still haven't learnt how to express my disappointment to a friend without appearing "needy" or some other negative thing..... so I usually don't even say when I am disappointed ESPECIALLY when I feel the MOST hurt and disappointed Abandonment issues partly, although my "neediness" and confusion has at times in the past meant I was abandoned anyway. At least I am not "controlling" though

Thanks again,
Fuzzy