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Originally Posted by msjanalyn
I know exactly how you feel. This is a constant state of fret for me and it's such an empty feeling. One thing I've done is save the texts the person has sent to me in the past and refer to those when I feel this way. Another thing is if he's been sick just text him a quick "Are you feeling better?" that isn't bugging him by any means. I do have to say that these feelings of abandonment consume me and I can't concentrate on anything but thinking why this person hasn't responded to me...but...99.9% of the time it was nothing and that person got caught up in "life". I'm a "it's all about me" type of gal so I always have to remember that I'm not in the fore front of everybody's mind. I hope this has helped a little.
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thanks for your response... yeah it is constant fretting, it makes me almost physically sick sometimes with how nervous i can get.
i do the same thing as you with reading old texts, just to remind myself that he does care but i still end up convincing myself that in the space of a day those feelings have changed. it is ridiculous.
when the feelings consume, i really cant function, i am so obsessive, i stare at my phone, space out and feel almost mentally paralyzed, i replay things over and over in my head and it's like the more i try to not think about it, the more i torture myself into believing he is never coming back.
ur reply really did help, i always feel like im alone in this craziness even though when i get a moment of rationality, i know im not.
u sound just like me with the 'its all about me'... i hope one day we can just do normal things like send a normal text and wait for a normal response without getting so worked up...