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Old Dec 03, 2012, 09:30 AM
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Originally Posted by MASIMO View Post
What I'm trying to understand is if this is his way of encouraging me to be less dependent on him. Because, I think it does serve this purpose. Obviously if I have a crisis I'm going to contact him, but perhaps less general contact is what might come out of his actions.
He is saying that yes he is here for me, and I have that security instead of me trying to confirm it by contact outside of sessions.

I'm not implying has a romantic interest in me. My love for him has evolved into a more mature form. It is what it is, and I'm comfortable with it, and with him as just being my therapist. I have no further expectations of our relationship other than professional.
I am progressing in dealing with the transference I feel.
How can he help you to be less dependent on him by reaching out to you even when you don't feel the need to contact him? Sounds a bit counterproductive...
Like being given chocolate as a reward for sticking to your diet.