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Old Dec 03, 2012, 11:18 AM
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i told her i wasn't willing to accept it, and gave her four reasons why:

- i feel like it would change the boundaries
- i would feel less important of a client if i was paying less (like if she had the choice between giving me or someone else a certain appointment, the full-paying client would always take priority)
- i wouldn't feel comfortable calling her outside of session if i needed to talk, like those benefits are reserved for full-paying clients
- i'd feel guilty if i went out to eat or shopping, like any extra money i had should be going towards therapy
What if your T tells you that she feels it will not change the boundaries, that you will NOT be less important to her, that she is okay with your calling her outside of sessions just as now, and that she doesn't believe you should feel guilty for spending money on eating out or shopping. I know they are your feelings, but, as farmergirl said, they may be based on faulty reasoning. If your T didn't want to offer you the reduced fee, she wouldn't.
Thanks for this!
seventyeight