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What if your T tells you that she feels it will not change the boundaries, that you will NOT be less important to her, that she is okay with your calling her outside of sessions just as now, and that she doesn't believe you should feel guilty for spending money on eating out or shopping. I know they are your feelings, but, as farmergirl said, they may be based on faulty reasoning. If your T didn't want to offer you the reduced fee, she wouldn't.
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she actually
did tell me all of that, in her voicemail this morning. she even added that she was "absolutely, one-hundred percent okay with it."
here's an example though of where it gets complicated (for me):
i just got a bonus at work. after taxes, it was about $800. it gives me a TON of relief to have that extra money in my bank account, as i'm usually down to my last $10 right before payday. i've even run out of money before, or had to do things like take food out of my grocery cart because i didn't have enough or not drive somewhere because i didn't have the money for gas. but now i feel like i can breathe again. furthermore, now i have money for christmas gifts and to buy myself some new clothes (something i haven't done in a
long time).
so.. do i tell her about this money? do i use it to pay for therapy and have my account go right back to where it was? do i not say anything?
on the one hand, it's none of her business, but on the other, it totally is. if i'm sharing my financial status with her and she's offering me a discount because of it - and then something changes - doesn't she have a right to know?