I will get to the OP's post but had to say something here.

That's a very strong stereotype you have there. Sounds like you think men in general want to do that and do you really believe that? I don't know about the other men around here but I find that a little off putting. You can't very well say based on my gender that I want to be in control of everything or everyone! There are plenty of controlling people out there, on both sides of the gender wall. I personally was the submissive/controlled one in my last relationship and my wife happened to be the one in control so... hmmm